Like most, I didn't always love myself.
As a child, I would always compare myself to others and thought I was less than everyone I was around.
This triggered a perfectionism complex, I would feel like I had to be perfect, good, and never make a mistake to be loved.
Living in this way only caused me pain. It caused me to choose partners that really didn’t treat me well. It caused me to forget the divine light I truly am.
I won’t say I never experience these feelings, but I don’t stay there very long. I went in deep and have tools to help me remember who I am when those feelings do come up.
I can say I love myself without thinking in my head that I was lying.
So what really helped me?
I got into nature. I’ve heard Ram Dass say, “See yourself and others as trees.” I experience this first hand, the “less than perfect” trees were just as beautiful as the others. They all added character to the forest. This helped me with my perfectionism.
I made a list of all the characteristics about me that I liked. I would go back and reread them often.
I have a reminder on my phone to tell myself I love myself and I’m doing a great job each day.
I looked back on how far I’ve come! It can seem like we are not doing enough, but when you think about what you were going through 2-5 years ago it can really show you how much you’ve changed.
When I make a mistake, I learned to talk to myself as my own best friend. Our ego tries to use tough love to make us be better, but defeating and beating ourselves up just causes more pain.
I explored myself. What are my interests, likes, and dislikes?
I discovered the self-care activities that feel best for me. Mine are massage, baths, journaling, and yoni steams.
I did inner child healings, where I meditated, loved, and reparented the child that was traumatized.
Do what feels best for you, everyone is different and has different needs.
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