Do you do this? Even though you don’t have plans with your partner, you tend to leave your schedule open just in case they might want to hang out. I caught myself doing this the other day when I had no plans with my boyfriend, but I’d figured we would probably hang out, so I wanted to leave my schedule open. However I noticed myself stepping back into this pattern, it was like the universe came to test me because a friend asked me if I wanted to go to Sedona. Old me would have said no, but I knew I wanted to go, so I went. It was crazy the fears of abandonment that came up. Thoughts like, "If I’m not available, what if he will never want to see me again." And I realized that was something that came up from childhood. Because really no one does that, “Hey I’m busy but let's hang out tomorrow.” "Umm, actually I never want to see you again."
The alternative never works. In my last relationship, I would leave my schedule open and we would not even hang out so I wasted my time waiting around.
People that are focusing on their growth, passions, and adventurous are attractive. When you are always available it can send the message you have nothing going on and your time is not valuable.
Make time for your partner but don't put your life on hold for them.
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